How are You doing in the Fearless Love department?
Valentine’s Day is almost here. Ask yourself: How am I doing in the Fearless Love department?
Walking into almost any store, we are already being surrounded by the merchandising images of love; candy hearts and cupids everywhere, but is that really love?
When you practice loving people for who they are (not who you wish they would be) then you truly discover the gift that person can be to your life. I don’t know about you but I want to experience true love, authentic love, great love. The funny thing is I’ve realized it has little to do with the other person and everything to do with breathing through my fear and being willing to be vulnerable when it is the last thing I want to do.
It’s my willingness to love first that makes me truly Fearless. Fearless Loving is about who we are in every relationship: friends, lovers, families, ourselves. Who are we in our relationships? How do we want to show up?
Love is equal parts emotion, commitment, actions, and intellect. It is attitude, energy and a path. It is at the core of every spiritual philosophy. It expands our heart and is the reason we connect. Love is who we are.
I look forward to exploring Fearless Love with you on January 29th. Until then, Be Fearless!
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Dera Rhonda, So Valentine’s day is coming up - i would like to have some fun since i am single after a 12 year, not so good marriage .
I got to know patient of mine reasonably well after several treatment sessions and chatting while working with him about his son who is the same age as my son , our wishes for their schooling and it turned out we both want them to go to the same school, possibly . I think I was partly attracted to him for him family values . aspirations for his son - wishing I had picked a man more like this - but I was attracted to him in other ways too . The last session we had a brief moment just when our eyes met while I was treating his shoulder- maybe it was just me but I don’t think so. He had brought his son with him , I think maybe to help us not to have to be alone !- I good idea in my opinion . He had even knocked on the window of the reception to acknowledge me before coming round to the front entrance .
I was a bit thrown by the moment and was not really able to do all the usual tests i would have done to discharge him - but managed to stay professional and continued with polite questions of his son about school etc . Thing is I am sure he is happily married and I would not want to interfere in this and so know it is best that I have finished treating him - I only just realised that I found him attractive in the previous session to the last one - and had actually said to to receptionist when she said how good looking he was and lovely he was after his first session that I didn’t find him attractive as his face was too round for me - or something - dismissing her comment, trying to stay with what I thought I found attractive - I did like his colouring - colours being a very strong thing with me. Being a bit shaken quickly found myself reading my book on the Ethics touch - realising how unethical a situation like this could be and felt a bit guilty even .
So I have had had several weeks to think it over ; I am enjoying the fantasy of it , knowing that it would never be a healthy thing to pursue - I met my husband whom I am divorcing when he was going through a divorce and so much comes out of a bad situation like that - I was blamed even though I was totally in the dark on the whole situation and knew nothing about his relationship and it was the hardest thing I have ever been through, seeing step children struggling - also seeing them only blame their mother and me and rather than their father who totally went after me and I had led me to believe it was so sad that his wife did not want to to do any thing with him .
So I have decided to enjoy the feeling I got from that brief moment and to move on ; and if anything comes of it later ,if things ever change for him that would be fine but i need to keep building my life the way I want it to be so that I am ready for whoever comes along who maybe a good partner for me.
I wish men and women could just be friends but it doesn’t work that way mostly, does it - and not in this situation - I could have some fun and send a valentine’s card - but would that be inappropriate ?
Last week I was doing some gyrotonic training in London and at the studio I bumped into a girl who had been at school with me. She had been the girlfriend of a boy .. friend of mine. I was in the year below her so didn’t really know here just knew she would drink too much and take drugs - she was a London girl . I like the boy more that I wanted to admitt to him as I knew he was unavailable and maybe I knew I was n’t really ready for a full relationship with anyone - I was very scared of this and was very young anyway too young only 14- 15 yrs .
The thing is this fear has continued with me a bit ,,,,,, but now I am getting more intimate with myself and knowing more what I want, building my life and so i am getting closer to being ready for a real relationship . I am enjoying the process !
Thank you , I have enjoyed 2 of your books and some coaching with Roxanne Barker , here in the UK .